"There is no other way of writing a novel than to begin at the beginning and to continue to the end." - C.S. Forester

If you would've told me three years ago I'd sell my first novel before I turned thirty, I'd have called you a liar.

A little over two years ago, I started to write fanfiction. No, I won't tell you what characters it was based around, but I will tell you it was horrible. Like AWFUL. I'll never forget this one "comment" I received from a reader. It crushed me, to the point my writing career almost came to a grinding halt before I could ever get into fourth gear.

Because I'd never been to college, I felt embarassed of my writing. I mean, I truly believed I couldn't write a book unless I'd at least obtained my Associates Degree. Add to it I write romance, albeit sweet romance, but romance none-the-less...I hung my head at the thought of anyone unearthing my secret. So, when Josh found out what I'd been up to, I was mortified. There the chips lay of my emotional stability, displayed on the table for Josh to see.

But to my surprise, Josh only encouraged me to keep writing, and to find a group I could join. By having his blessing, my confidence began to grow. Though my stuff was nowhere near the caliber it needed to be for him to read it, the fact he supported me was, not to sound corney, but the wind beneath my wings. He helped guide me on my first flight into the wonderful world of writing. Two nights later I discovered a national organization called the Romance Writers of America, and the local chapter was only a city away.

So, the following week, I packed my computer and headed into the unknown. I had no idea what to expect and could only hope that the women and men attendees would welcome me with open arms. I hadn't even gotten a chance to set down my bags before Christine, a sweet woman, introduced herself to me. It felt great, to not have been there five minutes and to have made a friend. I got so much out of the lecture that day. When I left, I felt energized to write. Most importantly, I left with a belief that "I can do this".

My drive started out with the desire to finish a book. Halfway through the novel, it changed to wanting to show my children you can do anything you put your mind to. Towards the end, it evolved into "I can make a living at this".

The following month I went to the RWA meeting and met my now good friend, Erin. Between her pushing me in my writing, and RWA challenging me to think outside of the box, the next year was spent in growing my craft. This year promised new and exciting things on the horizon. I felt the book I'd started the previous July would be "the one". Little did I know that, by the end of the year, how true my premonition would be.

Now here I sit, on the eve (so to speak) of having my first book published, and in the beginning stages of planning my next one. It's been a crazy two years and I'm thankful for my journey along the way. There has been some amazing women in my life who have helped me grow in ways I couldn't have without them. Erin and Laura are two of the many of those wonderful women.

Thank you to my husband, my friends, and everybody who has been a continuous support to me. Without you, I'd still be saying "One day I'll write a book."

Blessings,

Erin Pryor

"Gratitude consists of being more aware of what you have, than what you don’t." –Unknown

Thanksgiving. It's that time of year where people pull out the special dishes and dust off unused pots. Mother's are busy preparing for a last minute grocery shopping trip while father's look forward to the Thanksgiving Day Game. And, if you are a purist, it marks the beginning of the Christmas season (no matter that stores have put up decorations since the day after Halloween).

Yet, I think through the business of the season, and the hecticness of preparing for that family meal, we loose sight of what it truly means to be grateful.

Thanksgiving is more than just a highly caloric meal with a bunch of relatives you only see once, maybe twice, a year. It is a day that we set aside to be thankful for the blessings in our life, no matter how small.

As I look back at what the past year has brought to me, I'm thankful the the Lord and His perfect timing and direction. If you would've told me a year ago that:

1. We'd be moving back to Huntington Beach
2. I'd get a job across the street from where I live
3. I'd become a published author (or a contract to be)
4. Our daughter would loose 6 teeth
5. Our son would become more articulate
6. Fall in love with my husband all over again, for the countless time, celebrating our 11 year anniversary

I wouldn't have believed you. So much has happened I cannot keep track of it all. And if I only focus on the negatives, there would be no possitives in my life. I'm grateful for what the Lord has bestoed upon me and my family this year. By moving to Huntington Beach, both my husband and I have gained anywhere between an hour to two hours a day with our kids, and with each other.

I think my most favorite part of this year has been our special date nights. Josh and I have found this sushi place that we love, Kabuki. It is at Bella Terra in Huntington Beach. We'll go there, order sushi, and hang out for a couple of hours, just talking. There are many things we discuss and these are the times that are carved out just for the two of us. We always end it with a movie we've been wanting to see. We've made it a habit to have this time about once a month, and it never gets old. To sit across the table from my love, talking about different things, is always the best moment of my month.

Now, that's not to say I don't love my kids and spending time with them, it is just that my time with Josh is precious. I won't be married to my children for the rest of my life, therefore I need to nurture what I have with him.

The last couple years have been difficult familial wise. My family started to fall apart several years back when one of my cousins announced they were getting a divorce. Since then, four more family units in my extended family have gotten a divorce. So, now more than ever, I appreciate the love I share with my husband and our children. It breaks my heart to see the teenagers involved in these separations, and the wedge unresolved differences places between people.

By stripping back, Josh and I have created so much more room for both each other, and the kids. Our family, as an overal, is much happier. I believe that if we put each other first, that the pressures this world puts on us could be swept under the rug.

We have not anything if we have not love.

So, what are you thankful for?

Blessings,

Erin Pryor

"Sexiness wears thin after a while and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, now that's a real treat." J. Woodward

I've always joked: If I hadn't married my husband, I would've died from a case of being too serious before I turned thirty. Now, I've swung in such the opposite direction that, if you don't know me, my sense of humor can totally rub someone the wrong way. It's a product of my newly found sacasm, courtesy of my husband, coupled with my dry sense of humor. Not a good combination.

I only have my husband to blame. I can honestly say if I didn't have him in my life, I'd probably be the most boring person out there. Not only is he the love of my life, but he's saved me from myself, lol.

Anybody who knows Josh typically only sees him at face value: a very funny, goofy thirty-three year old. My life will never be dull or boring with him by my side. Yet, he is so much more than a good chuckle on a bad day. Sure, he makes me laugh, a lot. But he is more than the comedian everybody has made him out to be. Behind that facade is an amazingly bright man who could do anything he wanted if only given the opportunity.

We've now been married for eleven years and two months. We're so much a like, and different in many ways. And though he brings me great joy, there has been no year like this past year that shows just how much he loves me.

The beginning of the year started out with me having major surgery. I hadn't had a chance to really recover from that before I found out I have some other things wrong with me that changed the course of my life forever. Now, I'm not telling you this to feel any sort of sympathy for me, as indeed that is not the case.

But as I reflect back, it is Josh and his ability to make me laugh at even the most horrible of circumstances that helped me get through it all. God has granted me with such an amazing partner, someone suited perfectly to what I NEED. The fact that he's dealt with all my shortcomings by showing unconditional love only shows what an amazing man he is.

When I read Ms. Woodward's quote, I felt it held lots of truth. If you are married, you know what I mean. How many times has your partner made you laugh, or bring a smile to your face? Too many times to count, I'm sure. And if you're not married, make sure when you tie the knot, you do it with someone that, no matter your age or stage of life, will always put a smile on your face and laughter in your belly.

Nothing cures an aching heart like a good laugh.

Back to the Heart of Writing

As life passes by, one cannot help but think on where the time has gone. Having children only makes things worse because they are living proof of that elusive thing called time.

It’s hard to believe it has been over a year since I last wrote an entry on my blog. Life got in the way, which I should’ve never let it. As much as I want to do a topical blog, I think it is important to share what’s been happening in my life.

Where to begin. A week after my last entry, I put the kids in the car and started off towards Disneyland. One mile from the theme park, I was in an accident that totaled my car. It sucked. Three months later was my 10 year anniversary with my lovely husband, Josh. A month after that, I started a new job. I work in the mortgage industry, and those of you who are familiar with it, no further explanation is needed on how time seemed to fly by.

Six months later, after much talk, my husband and I decided to move from our home in Yorba Linda back to where I grew up, in Huntington Beach. With gas prices as much as they are, we were spending enough to make two car payments. Of course, the change wasn’t my top choice. I loved Yorba Linda, but I also loved the idea of being close to his work. Now, I couldn’t be happier about our move as it has freed up time we would’ve spent commuting.

This past June, the day after we moved, some things happened to me personally that altered my life forever. Without getting in to the details, the good news is that alteration has done wonders and changed me for the better.

Since then, I’ve written a lot, got a job across the street from my house, and lost 40 lbs. As a family, we’ve tried to strip back and only do those things important to us as a unit. Of course, this includes time away for mommy and daddy. I love our children dearly, but eventually they will grow up. If I spend all of my time only caring for them, I’ll have let my dream of being a writer slip through my fingers and wake up bored and confused fifteen years from now when I’m an empty nester.

I encourage all you parents out there: Take time for both yourself AND your marriage. We love our children, and in order to be the best parents we can be, we need that time to fill our own tanks before we can give more. Remember: You’re not married to your children, but to your spouse. When the kids are gone and in college, what will you do with that time? It is better to make your spouse your best friend, and keep it that way. Your children will notice the love you share and use it as a model for their own future relationships.

My husband makes sure that I get two writing nights a week, and we get a date night every two weeks (not including those times we sit to watch a movie together at night, or talk over coffee). The other time is spent with the kids and doing family stuff, when we are not working of course.

A month ago, my husband let me go to a full weekend getaway. My local chapter of the RWA (Romance Writers of America) hosted a conference at a hotel. We had lots of fun those two nights and I got a lot out of it. I even won one critique and a plotting lunch with a well known author, talk about cool. While I was there, a publisher happened to be sitting next to me. We began to talk about my current work in progress and she kept telling me “tell me more”. So, I proceeded to give my first ever pitch to an editor/publisher. In the end, she asked me to send her a partial of my work.

I fully planned on going home that Sunday and working on my submission. But, I began to feel under the weather that night. Two days later, I took a turn for the worse. Again, I work in the mortgage industry, so you don’t call in sick unless you are dead. So, I grinned took it like a champ until I couldn’t last any longer. On Saturday, I drove myself to the walk-in. A short time and a chest x-ray later, I was diagnosed with pneumonia. Unfortunately, I hadn’t the energy to work on my submission.

I began to feel better a few days later and was up to the task of reviewing my submission. I didn’t spend much time on it, and sent it in. I felt embarrassed for waiting so long to send the submission to begin with. I mean, come on. How many times have people given excuses why something wasn’t in on time? I hate to be that kind of a person.

So off it went, and I waited.

Two and a half weeks later (yesterday), I received the following email from their “Submissions Specialist”:

Hi Erin,

I’ve heard back from our acquisition editor and based on her recommendation, we would like to offer you a contract for Pillars In Time.

If you are still interested in contracting your story with us, let me know and I’ll send you the paperwork to get started.

Congratulations!

I about fell out of my chair at work when I read this email. I had to re-read it at least half a dozen times to make sure I read it correctly. I screamed “I’m going to be published!!” inside my head over and over. Everything I’ve gone through has been worth it.

I’ve taken a lot of criticism over the past 2.5 years, refusing to turn anybody and their opinions down because I knew if I paid attention to most of it, I’d grow as a writer. Heck, I look back at what I’ve written at the beginning of my journey and cannot believe where I started and where I am now. Even still, I believe I have a long way to go until I’ve “arrived”.

All of us writers strive to write once, then done. No editing, no problem. Yeah, I’ve a ways to go until that happens. But hey, what’s a goal if it isn’t at least achievable?

So, now that I’m back in the saddle and I like how comfortable it is here. The scenery is breathtaking and peaceful. I look forward to where this ride will take me and the pit-stops along the way.

Bottom line: Never give up on your passion. You are who you are for a reason. We each have unique gifts, given to us by the One who created us. Open up and let your gift blossom. The fruits of your labors will be even more bright and tasty than you could’ve ever imagined.

Making a decision to have a child--it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. -- Elizabeth Stone

Last night, as I was in the process of getting both kids off to bed, I tapped Jackson on the butt and said to him “Go say goodnight to your father.”

“Oh! I forgot!”

All thirty-six inches of him turned on his heal and paddled over to where Josh lay on the couch watching the game. Our little man proceeded to throw the small expanse of his arms around Josh, leaned his head on his father’s chest and said “Night Dad!”, leapt out of his father’s embrace, his feet shuffling along the carpet as he dodged past me and to his room.

“It’s so weird to have two talking children.” Josh, wearing his heart on his face, watched as Jackson turned the corner and disappeared into the bedroom.

I continued to tuck both our children into their beds, gave them hugs and kisses goodnight, and closed the door. The rest of the night was uneventful, just sitting back and relaxing with my husband as we watched Hell’s Kitchen on Fox. During commercial breaks I stole time to flip through a page or two out of the current book I’m reading.

Since my last post, I’ve contemplated on what my next topic should be. Since I started this blog, I’m determined to write something that is on my heart, but not for the faint of.

The past few days I have thought a lot about our children, and how blessed we are to have them. One of each - most people’s dream, our reality. I don’t use the term “blessed” lightly as I have seen my fare share of heartache over those soft skin and rosy cheeks gifts from God.

When I was twelve years old, my mom re-married. After a few years of battling my own issues with sharing the attentions of my mom with another man, I learned that he was a father more to me than the biological one who deserted me at the tender age of nine.

During the next couple of years, I witness something so painful it sticks with me to this day. My father (I thought over all men he deserved the title) never had children. He came to the marriage and gained a hormone laden, pimply, strong-headed pre-teen. For the first few years of their marriage, my mom and dad tried to get pregnant, without success. After a visit to her OB/GYN, and an examination at the hospital, my mom found that both of her tubes were blocked by scar tissue. It prevented her from getting pregnant.

After undergoing surgery to remove the tubes, the only option my mom had to get pregnant was through In Vitro Fertilization. Days after the first surgery, the process proved successful. But when she went in for her check up a few days later, the doctor informed her she was no longer pregnant.

This went on for two more tries. Each attempt she was pregnant, and after a few weeks, the doctor delivered the same horrible news to her. She wasn’t pregnant. When she came home from the hospital after that third try she was devastated. She wondered why so many women who didn’t want babies could get pregnant, but she couldn’t.

Making matters worse, a report on the news shattered my moms world. A woman whom recently gave birth, left her infant in the car during the record-setting heat of a summer. Why did she do this? So she could go into a hotel room and sleep with her boyfriend. The result? The young infant died of heat exhaustion.

To this day I will never forget the pain of my mother’s cries. The wailing of a woman completely broken, confused and lost. At sixteen, it was a hard thing to witness.

On the fourth try, a miracle happened. The baby took and eleven years later, I have an amazing younger brother who will be going into fifth grade this year.

I took something away from that five year period. Not to underestimate the beautiful gift from God in a precious child.

When I had a miscarriage right before getting pregnant with Jackson, I resolved to the fact that I had one beautiful and healthy child. If that was all that God chose to give me, I knew I was blessed. Katelyn and her bright, beautiful personality was a gift not to be ignored.

After six months of trying and one miscarriage, we decided to wait a while longer. So when I un-expectantly got pregnant with Jackson immediately following the miscarriage, I was shocked. The pregnancy with him was not an easy one. At twenty-nine weeks I went into pre-term labor and after about five hospital visits, they took him at thirty-five weeks via c-section.

He came out, battered, bruised, and with a partial cleft lip neither of us were prepared for. As they struggled to get him to breathe, all I wanted to do was touch my baby boy. Before they whisked him away to the NICU, the LDR nurse held him up to my face. I wasn’t allowed to touch him, but I got to see him. Ordered by the nurse to leave, my husband followed Jackson to the NICU. It wasn’t without hesitation. I was bleeding out. He felt torn between the child who was a mess and not looking so good, or his wife that could possibly die. Later, as he recounted the tale, I could see the hurt that lingered.

I wasn’t allowed to see my son for the first thirty-six hours of his life. I was confined to my bed with a set of Polaroid pictures to keep me company. Little pieces of his flesh could be seen through the tangle of chords, swatches of blankets, and the tiny diaper he wore. I felt robbed of the joy of holding my child.

That selfish desire was wiped away when, as I held my child for the first time close to forty hours later, another preemie was rolled into the POD next to Jackson. This little boy, born at twenty-six weeks to a set of new parents weighed in at one pound, nine ounces. Talk about a smack in the face. I felt dirty for feeling as selfish as I had. Here our son was in my arms, about to be intubated, and I thought I had room to complain? Boy was I wrong!

To this day, I don’t know what happened to that little boy. Last I heard, a heart valve that closes in-vitro hadn’t closed yet and he was to be rushed to CHOC for open heart surgery.

Amidst the struggles we faced with my sons health over the following twelve months, I constantly thought of that little boy. During the sleepless nights at the hospital, and countless breathing treatments, I thought of that little boy. I leaned upon the Lord and asked for his strength. The last thing I believed I had a right to do was complain. Cleft lip and all, my little boy was perfect in God’s eyes.

Now we are coming up on Jackson’s third birthday. I’m happy to report, due to the generosity of some people at church, his lip has been healed. He has only had pneumonia twice this year and with each passing day, seems to be on the mend. He is such a handsome little boy with a lot of personality and a big heart.

We are entering that fun stage of parenting, tantrums aside. I love watching both of our kids interact and laugh with one another. Last night they were going crazy, running in and out of their room and laughing till their bellies most likely hurt.

There is something to be said, no matter ones status in life, about having happy children. Nothing can be compared to seeing their joy and comforting them when in pain. It doesn’t take blood relation to be a good parent, but love. An unconditional love that they feel secure in. Not until I had children of my own did I realize the love God has for us. To look at my two little rosy cheek, sparkling eyed, mischievous kids, and know how much I love them – it’s crazy to think how much more God loves me. Honestly, it is inconceivable.

When I read the quote above, I couldn't help but think how true it was. Now I know the pain my mother suffered when seeing me mature and leave the house. I'm not saying I want my kids to live with me forever, but when they do go, a piece of me will be with them wherever they are at.

I am blessed to be a wife to an amazing, loving, and wonderful husband. I’m honored to have been entrusted the welfare and upbringing of two children. When put into comparison, everything else in life is trivial.

Have a fantastic rest of your week!

Erin

(Above photo, from left: Jackson, Katelyn, my dad, my brother Johnny)

"Men must be governed by God or they will be ruled by tyrants" William Pen

At the end of my street, a resident put the phrase on a large 5x4 wood board. Attached to a couple of 2x4’s, the sign lifted to the height of a SUV. He made sure it would be visible to every person driving in and out of our area.

During the first night it was up, someone took a can of spray paint and crossed out the word “God” and sprayed “What’s God got to do with it?”

My husband and I talked a little bit about the tagger’s declaration. Here was a man that took the time and the money to put up a really cool sign (at least in my opinion) and like a thief in the night, somebody defiles it.

Two days later, my husband and I were pulling out of the area and saw the gentleman at work taking down the old board and putting another one in its place.

Another tagger marked it up that night. This time with unnecessary pictures of body parts and more on their opinions. That day, the owner came back and fixed it up. After that the sign remained untouched for a few days.

Watching the silent war transpire between these people who were unknown to me reminded me of when my husband was in the war. You see, my husband belonged to the 5th Marine Regiment. His unit was deployed back in February of 2003, a month and a half before the actual war began. During this time I took on a second job at Barnes and Noble to keep me occupied. A person’s worse enemy is their mind and I couldn’t handle sitting around only to watch all of the news coverage. The particular store I worked at was a part of a huge mall out here in Orange County, CA.

Protestors began to line the main street of the mall, and covered both sides of two different over passes. At one point I was even accosted at a street light with a man and his video camera “How do you feel being governed by a dictator?” I remained silent for a few weeks when a co-worker came up to me.

“Hey Erin! What are you doing tonight? My wife and I are going to go to the overpass and give those protestors a piece of our mind! Come and join us!”

“No, that’s okay. I’m just gonna go home.”

“What?! Why?” he genuinely seemed disappointed and upset at my not wanting to partake in their activities.

“Because,” I said “The reason my husband and his friends are where they are is so that those people on the overpass can have the right to express their own opinions.”

Or that is basically how the conversation went. It has been 7 years and all. My memory is not too good since my second child. ;-)

Though it hurt to watch somebody ruin such an amazing quote, the beauty in it was they could. Not only does our nation allow us to express our opinions, but more importantly God gives us freedom that man can’t. Yet, He is the only one who would be quick to forgive any person of anything if they were to only ask.

And that, my friends, is more beautiful than any combination of words.

Have a blessed weekend!

In Christ.
Erin

Why Fountain Pens Changed My Life

For those of you who haven’t tried a true fountain pen and giving it a shot, you are missing out.

A few months ago, talking on the phone with a new-found friend, I told her about how I can’t write by hand anymore. Both of my hands cramp up and after about a minute or two, the act physically hurts. Because of the pain and other irritating symptoms associated with them, I’ve even gone to the doctor. A full blood panel later, no arthritis was found. Talk about inconvenient and frustrating.

I’m 27 years old. Too young to have little things like opening jars or writing by hand hurt me. I wanted answers and when the tests came back clean, I was disappointed. We live in an age where there are answers for so many things. To not have walked out of the doctors office that day with one made me feel hopeless.

After telling my friend Erin all of this, she dived into a speech about fountain pens. I listened in earnest, but was left a little confused. How could a simple pen make the difference? I mean, the walls of Staples and OfficeMax are lined with disposable pens. Those pens are not that different from an actual fountain pen. So even though I listened, I still had a little doubt.

But hey!? Who was I to turn away a possible solution to my never-ending problem? At this point, I couldn’t even write more than 10 thank you cards for one of my kids’ birthday party. I’d try anything. Heck, I never used to carry around notepads because what was the point? I couldn’t write more than a page anyway.

About a week later, Erin lent me one of her pens to get the feel of things. It was very buoyant in my hand, causing me to raise my expectations. The first few pen strokes increased my hope. Then, about a day into it, I started to get frustrated. I wasn’t used to the nib. In order to use it correctly, you have to hold the pen right. In my frustrated state I thought to myself “why am I going to go through all of this to just have another headache?”

Desperate to have a solution to my problem, I persevered. Once I returned the pen to my friend, I already purchased another one to take its place. My agony grew when my new fountain pen, a different maker, wrote completely different than the one I spent a few weeks getting used to. UGH! I wanted to scream. But I didn’t give up.

I grew to like that pen, but it broke a week after I bought it. My solution was EBay. I found a lot of the exact pens that Erin let me borrow, purchased them and received in the mail a week later. Because they run on refillable cartridges, it was yet another thing that I had to get used to. Let’s just say the first few times were….not clean. It seemed to me that ink would never leave my hands. Every morning I’d go to work with clean hands. By the end of the day they would be covered in blue ink. A woman at work kept laughing at me, asking why I hadn’t given up yet.

Because I couldn’t.

Now, two months later, I couldn’t imagine my life without these pens. Yes, after years of writing with standard ball-point pens, there was some getting used to my new writing tools. But they were worth every ounce of frustration and every drop of ink. I rarely get it on my skin anymore, but when I do, I honestly don’t care. I could go to disposable ink cartridges and that would solve my problem, but I like what I’m doing and I don’t care to change it.

You’re probably asking why I would go through so much hassle just so I can write by hand. Especially with computers.

To fuel your curiosity, yes there are computers. I can type 80-90 words a minute so I am not lacking there.

What about those times when I’m in a park, at lunch or on a break? Those times when I don’t have my computer with me? Now, I have notepads in my purse, in my car, and anywhere else I can think to store them. When I have ideas, or I want to write, I do. My creative thoughts are no longer a prisoner to my hands. I write, and write, and WRITE all the time. I have my life back because of it. I owe mountains of thanks to my friend Erin.

Now I challenge you to two months of testing out these pens. You won’t lose anything by trying, but gain nothing by not.